
| Comments from grief professionals,
writers, and widows:
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Comments from professional's
in dealing with grief: March Before
Spring chronicles the illness, death from cancer, process of mourning
and healing of a husband in a long and successful marriage from the
point of view of the widow. The poetry, in the tradition of the very
best of "confessional" poetry in contemporary American
letters, is spare, elegant, lyrical and deeply felt. Ms. Mendel is a
master at the use of the vivid image and ordinary experiences of life to
convey the varied experiences of the entire process of caring for and
about a dying person, and putting life back together again after his
death. The lover of poetry will enjoy this book for the sheer artistry
of the craft. The person seeking a book of poems to give voice to the
universal experiences of mourning she so vividly portrays will find
comfort and solace in its pages. As a psychotherapist, I have
recommended this book on many occasions to people who are grieving, and
all have been moved and grateful for the chance to read it. In every sense,
this is a book to own and to treasure. In my practice many of my clients
are experiencing grief in various stages. I offer them the beauty
of your poems. Your words, as simple as they are, carry a depth
that feels profound. Wounded hearts are rekindled with hope. You
share a glimpse of the intimacy you have with your husband, in life and
in death. Thank you. This small volume of poetry has within its covers magnificent words and
thoughts to ponder. For me personally, it has enabled me to look at life
through a different set of lenses. For that, I will always be grateful. Ms. Mendel's poems are stunning. She balances love and grief on the small
details of ordinary life: an old shirt, the crumbs left on the counter, the dent
left in a pillow. They speak softly but can tear your heart as the poems recall
her husband, their love, his death from cancer and her struggle through grief.
My first reading left me in tears; each subsequent reading shows me more of Ms.
Mendel's power to give voice to near-overwhelming grief and what it takes to
overcome such a loss. I am a physician and I prescribe copies to patients coping
with the loss of a beloved. The local Hospice organization keeps copies in their
library. The poems carry great healing power as well as beauty. Stephanie Mendel has written a touching book about the many aspects
experienced during the illness and death of her husband. The book is open
and honest. Her poetic sharing of those intimate thoughts helps others recognize
some of the universality of emotions in an experience where one often feels
utterly alone and without words. I
couldn’t put down March, before Spring. Then I read it again.
Each page is touching and intimate. I found the poetry to be
comforting and healing. With heartbreak and humor Stephanie Mendel uses her unique poetic
power to offer consolation to those who are grieving. All art is a
tract against death, a reminder that life is brief, fragile, unrepeatable.
These artful poems are Stephanie Mendel's tract for
the living--praise pieces, prayers of witness and remembrance, quiet,
brave and heartbreakingly real. Comments from Widows:
Stephanie Mendel has opened up her heart to share the fear, heartbreak and
pain of her loss. She has given us a powerful tool with which to process
our own grief, and a hope for another tomorrow. Stephanie Mendel's brave poetry traces the journey of
losing one's spouse to cancer, from diagnosis to death and then facing life
again. The words are few but gorgeous, cutting to the heart of the
experience in a way that prose cannot. Highly recommended. When I finished reading your book I wanted to send
it to everyone I knew to say to them that this is what it’s like. March Before Spring arrived today - It is the most beautiful
book - I truly treasure it. Thank you for what you share - how you write
- I don't have words, but your words truly do go right to my heart.
You capture what we need to know and share. Thank you. |